(also known as ‘Frame of Reference Filter’ or ‘Motivation Source’) How much feedback do you feel you need to stay […]
A while ago one of my friends was preparing for an important interview
and asked me for help as she felt a bit nervous. This is what I came up
that you are surrounded by an 'inner circle' of the people who love
you. See them – hear their voices – they are close enough to reach out
Around them is an 'outer circle' of people who value,
like and respect you – friends, colleagues, whatever. Again, see them,
hear their voices, and they are close enough to reach through or over
the inner circle and give you a reassuring pat on the back or shoulder.
how do you feel about that interview or presentation? If you've got the
right people in your circles, it should be a lot better. The more
vividly you imagine the people around you (through all the senses –
seeing, hearing, feeling) the better it will work. Do this again just
before you go in to the interview.
My friend got the job!
could use this technique to get yourself into the right frame of mind
for any 'scary' upcoming event – presentations, speeches, appraisals….
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This is another archive tip rescued from my ancient and now-deceased first stab at a blog.