Andy Smith in conversation with NLP Trainer, coach and author Margaret Nash.
Here are some of the things we talk about:
- Why smoking cessation or maybe weight loss is the thing to specialise in if you want to make money as a hypnotherapist, and helping people with deeper problems is probably a terrible business model
- My theory about how ‘manifestation’ actually works (when it does work)
- How to improve your performance and be your beset self more often with self-modelling – three easy steps
- The crucial importance of exploring your ‘recovery strategy’ (if there’s something you think you’re not good at, maybe it’s because you don’t have one in that context!)
- Why ‘Good job!’ should be the start of the conversation when a team member does something you like, rather than then end as it so often is (hat tip to Marcus Buckingham here)
- ‘Uptime’ and ‘downtime’ – and why you need to be in ‘uptime’ when you’re talking with a client or presenting to an audience
- The importance of persistence (this reminded me of Carol Dweck’s work on ‘mindset’)
- How Margaret ‘found her Zen’ as a coach, and some tips on how you can too, as described in her latest book
- The difference in approach between coaching and ‘classic’ NLP changework.
Here’s my take on the three steps of ‘self-modelling’, to improve your performance and be your best self more often:
- Think of something you do well. And really examine in detail what you’re doing when you perform that skill – not just what you do and say, but what you’re thinking about, what you’re saying to yourself, how you’re feeling, how you’re standing, how you’re breathing, what feedback you’re looking for that tells you if you’re doing well or badly – everything.
In particular, what’s your recovery strategy if you’re knocked off track? (for example, if you’re doing an important presentation and there’s a technical failure on your PowerPoint)
- Now do the same thing with a skill you want to improve. Notice the differences between all these aspects of how you do this, your recovery strategy, etc, and the way you do the thing you’re good at.
- Now map the qualities of the way you do the thing you’re good at over to the thing you’re not so good at. What happens if you start doing this thing with the same confidence, internal dialogue etc that you use with the thing you’re good at? Then try it out!
You can contact Margaret here: margaretnashcoach.com
Margaret has written seven books on various aspects of personal development, managing the stages of your life, and coaching – you can find them at her Amazon author page.
Duration: 44m 07s
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