Practical NLP Podcast 37: The Meta Model part 3 – Deletions, And How To Use The Meta Model In Practice

This week’s episode concludes our exploration of the Meta Model with the group of patterns we can class as Deletions, and the associated questions to recover the missing information. We also include some vital tips for using the Meta Model in practice, so you don’t become a ‘Meta Model Monster’ and annoy everyone around you. […]

The “Discovery Frame”: how to learn better and be happier

Created from images by Leonardini and theswedish at sxc.huIn NLP, the Discovery Frame is an attitude in which you suspend your expectations, judgements and attachment to a particular outcome in approaching a task. You just do it, to the best of your ability, and notice what happens and what you learn from it. The benefits […]

Opening possibility in self-talk 3: suspending judgement

Another way that our self-talk can lock us into stuck and unresourceful states and patterns of behaviour is by how we put events, other people, and ourselves, into categories which have an implied judgement. (NB this article follows on from the previous articles Opening possibility in self-talk 1: what doesn’t work and Opening possibility in […]

Opening possibility in self-talk 2: time-shifting

So, following on from the previous article about difficulties in changing self-talk, if critical internal dialogue is unhelpful (and it doesn’t matter if it’s critical of ourselves, other people, or the world in general – it still makes us feel worse), what can we do to make our self-talk more useful, or just go away […]

Three Downsides Of The Question “Why?”

By the end of this short article you’ll be a lot warier of using “Why?” as a problem-solving question, especially where people are involved. But first let me clarify: “Why?” can be a great question – for looking for the causes of problems in simple systems. For complex systems, however (and anything involving people is […]

NLP Presuppositions (1): The Map Is Not The Territory

Note: this is the first in an occasional series on the ‘presuppositions’ of NLP: the principles that you have to assume are true in order to make NLP work for you. In NLP we are not so bothered about proving whether the principles are objectively true or not; we are much more interested in whether […]

Universals and emotion

Just a musing prompted by watching UK Big Brother the other night. Some of the housemates get very emotional very frequently – and when they do, they use a lot of universal quantifiers: “This always happens to me”, “I’m never accepted” etc. And I got to thinking – when you’re flooded with emotion, those “always/no-one/never/every […]

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