An NLP Exercise To Increase Your Emotional Self-Awareness

To be able to use your NLP skills wisely, you need to be aware of your own emotions. If you are not in touch with your own emotions, you will not be able to manage them or to recognise emotions accurately in others. In turn, without these competencies, you will not be good at managing […]

Practical NLP 25: Emotional Intelligence

This week’s podcast starts to look at Emotional Intelligence and how it relates to NLP. Featuring: Why emotions are not the enemy of reason Why you need emotions to make decisions A focusing exercise to help you increase your self-awareness Duration: 14:56 Also feature’s Daniel Goleman’s four-quadrant model of Emotional Intelligence:

What you need to know about your unconscious mind

Your unconscious mind is on your side It wants to serve and protect you. Even when the objective result of what it does is harmful, it believes it’s doing it for your own greater good. Most of the time, your unconscious mind is in charge We go through life mostly on ‘autopilot’. The conscious mind […]

NLP Presuppositions (8): The “Meaning” of Communication is the Response You Get

Or, how to avoid “doing a Ratner”. Have you ever paid someone a compliment, and they’ve taken it as a put-down? Have you ever said something intended to make someone laugh, and they’ve taken it as a hurtful comment? Have you ever tried to make that kind of situation better, and just found that you’re […]

Analogue and digital coding, and non-verbal communication

It’s worth saying something about an important difference between the systems we use to represent our experience which are sensory – visual, auditory, kinaesthetic (feeling), olfactory (smell), and gustatory (taste) – and using words as a representational system. The sensory systems are what’s known as ‘analogue’. An analogue representation bears some obvious relation to the […]

Opening possibility in self-talk 2: time-shifting

So, following on from the previous article about difficulties in changing self-talk, if critical internal dialogue is unhelpful (and it doesn’t matter if it’s critical of ourselves, other people, or the world in general – it still makes us feel worse), what can we do to make our self-talk more useful, or just go away […]

“Perception is Projection” – really?

Many NLP trainers, especially but not exclusively the ones at the ‘large event, offer a free intro, and sell like crazy to your captive audience’ end of the market, use the phrase “Perception is Projection”. Some have even elevated this equation to a place in one of the ‘presuppositions of NLP’ (think ‘guiding principles’ if […]

How to change limiting beliefs 2: What’s the real issue here?

Very often we are not aware of our limiting beliefs. After all, if we knew about them, and we were aware that they were limiting, we would probably have done something about them by now. If we can identify the beliefs that limit us, we are doing ourselves a real service. In the terms used […]

How to change limiting beliefs 1: look at consequences

In the last entry we looked at how what you believe can limit your effectiveness as a leader (or, equally, as a parent, a coach, a teacher, sports player…), and some ways of identifying limiting beliefs. So now let’s find some ways to change limiting beliefs. Some of these methods involve stepping back from the […]

“Is NLP Manipulative?”

A question that comes up from time in one form or another is “Is NLP Manipulative?” So I thought it would be worth taking a moment to gather some thoughts on this matter. The immediate cause was being interviewed by Judy Rees for the next edition of ‘Rapport‘ magazine (the NLP one, not the Peugeot […]

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