Tips For Sharpening Your Rapport Skills

Following on from previous articles about rapport and how to improve it, here are some ways you can develop your sensory acuity and rapport skills. Remember, it’s one thing to read about NLP and to know about it intellectually, quite another to be able to do it. That takes constant practice. With sensory acuity, there’s […]

Rapport 101 in NLP (with a bit of research back-up)

Note: this is an expansion of an earlier article, What is Rapport in NLP? I’m sure that many times when you’re out at a bar, you will have noticed couples on dates. I’m also sure that even if they are right across the other side of the room, you can tell how well the date […]

NLP Eye Patterns – What’s Going On?

When I was in school and the teacher asked me a question, I sometimes used to look up and to my left. More than once, I remember the teacher saying “You won’t find the answer up there!” And I couldn’t think of the answer. Have you ever noticed people doing that, when you ask them […]

Crossover Matching and Pacing and Leading: Practical NLP Podcast 14

This week’s podcast covers: Crossover matching – how to match people so they don’t spot you doing it A mistake some NLP practitioners make that will blow rapport! The easy way to achieve rapport Ways to practice your sensory acuity and rapport skills ‘Pacing’ and ‘leading’ – how to subtly influence other people in the […]

How to practice your rapport skills

There are a number of ways you can practise and sharpen your rapport skills. If you actually do these exercises (as opposed to reading about them) you will soon become better than most NLP master practitioners. Notice examples of people in rapport around you – on the train, in a bar, at work, anywhere that […]

How do you know when you have rapport?

Following on from the previous article which gave an overview of rapport as the concept is defined in NLP, this one looks at how you know if you have rapport. You’ll feel it. Or get a sense of being at one with the other person. Conversely, if you lose rapport, or put a foot wrong, […]

What is Rapport in NLP?

Rapport – used in English to imply harmony, a feeling of shared understanding, and of being at one – is the most important process in any interaction. Without it, two people will not trust each other and probably will not even hear each other correctly. We have all created rapport many times – when we’re […]

Want to be a better communicator? Check the V.I.B.E.S.!

NLP Calibration: what to notice Following on from earlier articles about calibration and calibration exercises, let’s look at some of the changes you can calibrate in people’s responses. This comes from NLP, but if you’re at all interested in the ‘relationship awareness’ aspect of emotional intelligence, or in coaching, counselling, communication or influence, being aware […]

A simple exercise to develop your calibration skills

Your persuasion task for today (should you choose to accept it) is to get someone to work with you in practising reading another individual. This will be easy, because they get to sharpen their skills too. Here’s a simple exercise you can do: Ask your partner to think of someone they dislike. Notice their facial […]

Why ‘Calibration’ is important in communication

NLP jargon alert! “Calibration”. What on earth does this mean? You know if you have a pair of old fashioned kitchen scales, you have to make sure they are set to zero before you measure something. That way, you are starting off from an accurate baseline so you know that when you put the item […]

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