Outframing: A Process For Loosening Limiting Beliefs

What is Outframing? Outframing means broadening or pulling back the frame to see how the meaning of something changes when seen in a different, wider context. In their vast endeavour The Encyclopedia of Systemic NLP and New Coding, Robert Dilts and Judith DeLozier outline a process called ‘Belief Outframing’, in which you examine a limiting belief […]

Identifying Unhelpful Frames In Your Life And Work

A ‘frame’ in NLP, and indeed in psychology, is the context we put around something in order to decide what it means. It’s as if we are drawing a boundary around it which includes part of our experience and excludes the rest. Whatever is inside the boundary, we use as the context to make sense […]

The importance of state in changing minds – and four ways to work with it

I keep coming back to Seth Godin’s article ‘I changed my mind yesterday‘, about how hard it is to change people’s minds when they have already decided and are determined not to change. I briefly blogged about it back in 2005 (Seth Godin on changing minds), but it deserves a bit more consideration – and […]

The “Discovery Frame”: how to learn better and be happier

Created from images by Leonardini and theswedish at sxc.huIn NLP, the Discovery Frame is an attitude in which you suspend your expectations, judgements and attachment to a particular outcome in approaching a task. You just do it, to the best of your ability, and notice what happens and what you learn from it. The benefits […]

OK, sometimes perception IS projection

The way we make sense of the world is not just a matter of passively filtering incoming information. We have expectations of how we expect particular situations and other people to be, and we project those expectations onto our perception of the world around us. They form part of our filters, playing up information that […]

NLP Presuppositions (2): Mind and Body are one system

Your body, of course, is on one level a physical object. It has a position in space, it has certain dimensions, it has a certain weight under Earth’s gravitational conditions, and so on. Your mind, on the other hand, is not in a particular physical location, has no dimensions or weight, and seems non-physical in […]

Self-empowerment: are you at Cause or at Effect?

As human beings, we tend to see the world in terms of cause and effect equations. If something we do consistently gets a certain result, we say that our action causes that result. If one event is consistently followed by another, we start believing that the first event causes the second. This is a useful […]

Opening possibility in self-talk 4: disarming the ‘inner critic’

For some people, internal dialogue often takes the form of an ‘inner critic’, ‘chatterbox’ or ‘gremlin’ which scolds or undermines them (if you never get this, then you can just smile and be grateful – it’s still worth reading the article though because it will give you a way to help other people who do […]

Opening possibility in self-talk 3: suspending judgement

Another way that our self-talk can lock us into stuck and unresourceful states and patterns of behaviour is by how we put events, other people, and ourselves, into categories which have an implied judgement. (NB this article follows on from the previous articles Opening possibility in self-talk 1: what doesn’t work and Opening possibility in […]

Opening possibility in self-talk 2: time-shifting

So, following on from the previous article about difficulties in changing self-talk, if critical internal dialogue is unhelpful (and it doesn’t matter if it’s critical of ourselves, other people, or the world in general – it still makes us feel worse), what can we do to make our self-talk more useful, or just go away […]