Tips For Sharpening Your Rapport Skills

Following on from previous articles about rapport and how to improve it, here are some ways you can develop your sensory acuity and rapport skills. Remember, it’s one thing to read about NLP and to know about it intellectually, quite another to be able to do it. That takes constant practice. With sensory acuity, there’s […]

Are NLP Rapport Techniques Manipulative?

Having discussed some practical applications of rapport techniques from NLP such as ‘pacing and leading’, we now come to the question of ‘Is it manipulative to use these methods?’ My belief is that ultimately it depends on your intention. If respect the other person and dovetail your desired outcome with theirs, you will get a win-win […]

When Is It Useful To Break Rapport?

We’ve established that there are lots of practical applications for rapport, and pacing and leading. So are there any times when you would want to break non-verbal rapport? Maybe to signal that a meeting or interview is over without having to explicitly say so, as a tactic when you come up against a pushy salesperson […]

Influencing Skills: Real-World Applications Of ‘Pacing And Leading’

The NLP idea of ‘pacing and leading’ is based on a genuine observed psychological phenomenon, and has some very useful applications in the real world. ‘Pacing’ in NLP means matching someone, falling into step with them, entering into their model of the world. You can pace someone’s ideas, beliefs and experiences as well as their […]

The easy way to achieve rapport

In the Rapport 101 article we found that studies suggest that three elements have to be present for rapport to be possible: mutual attention – where each person is tuning in to the other shared positive feeling, and synchrony – where people unconsciously respond to each others’ movements and gestures When someone meets you for the first […]

Rapport 101 in NLP (with a bit of research back-up)

Note: this is an expansion of an earlier article, What is Rapport in NLP? I’m sure that many times when you’re out at a bar, you will have noticed couples on dates. I’m also sure that even if they are right across the other side of the room, you can tell how well the date […]

Applying Pacing and Leading: Practical NLP Podcast 15

This week’s Practical NLP podcast covers: Real-world applications of pacing and leading When to break rapport Influencing with integrity and features, among other things,  a novel way of keeping asthma under control, how to deal with angry customers, how to inspire the right emotions in your team, and how to be scary in meetings! Listen […]

Crossover Matching and Pacing and Leading: Practical NLP Podcast 14

This week’s podcast covers: Crossover matching – how to match people so they don’t spot you doing it A mistake some NLP practitioners make that will blow rapport! The easy way to achieve rapport Ways to practice your sensory acuity and rapport skills ‘Pacing’ and ‘leading’ – how to subtly influence other people in the […]

Rapport: Practical NLP Podcast 13

This week’s Practical NLP podcast covers: Matching and Mirroring The three elements of rapport that psychologists have identified 7 things you can match to achieve rapport And features, among other things, why some waitresses get higher tips, how to increase your chances of success at speed dating, and Buster Gonad! Subscribe to the podcast via […]

How do you know when you have rapport?

Following on from the previous article which gave an overview of rapport as the concept is defined in NLP, this one looks at how you know if you have rapport. You’ll feel it. Or get a sense of being at one with the other person. Conversely, if you lose rapport, or put a foot wrong, […]