Are NLP Rapport Techniques Manipulative?

Having discussed some practical applications of rapport techniques from NLP such as ‘pacing and leading’, we now come to the question of ‘Is it manipulative to use these methods?’ My belief is that ultimately it depends on your intention. If respect the other person and dovetail your desired outcome with theirs, you will get a win-win […]

Influencing Skills: Real-World Applications Of ‘Pacing And Leading’

The NLP idea of ‘pacing and leading’ is based on a genuine observed psychological phenomenon, and has some very useful applications in the real world. ‘Pacing’ in NLP means matching someone, falling into step with them, entering into their model of the world. You can pace someone’s ideas, beliefs and experiences as well as their […]

Applying Pacing and Leading: Practical NLP Podcast 15

This week’s Practical NLP podcast covers: Real-world applications of pacing and leading When to break rapport Influencing with integrity and features, among other things,  a novel way of keeping asthma under control, how to deal with angry customers, how to inspire the right emotions in your team, and how to be scary in meetings! Listen […]

Crossover Matching and Pacing and Leading: Practical NLP Podcast 14

This week’s podcast covers: Crossover matching – how to match people so they don’t spot you doing it A mistake some NLP practitioners make that will blow rapport! The easy way to achieve rapport Ways to practice your sensory acuity and rapport skills ‘Pacing’ and ‘leading’ – how to subtly influence other people in the […]