Understanding And Using The Milton Model 1: The Hierarchy Of Ideas (‘Chunking’)

The ‘Hierarchy of Ideas’ is something you need to get your head round before you can really understand how NLP language patterns work. Luckily it’s easy to understand. The concept is to do with how abstract or specific your language is, which of course indicates where on the spectrum between overall ‘big picture’ and fine-grained […]

How not to communicate – ‘nominalisations’ (with examples)

The term ‘nominalisation’ in NLP refers to words describing activities or processes (something we do) but that we talk about as if they are things. ‘Nominalising’ an activity distorts our thinking about it, because it obscures what the activity actually is, and allows us to talk about the nominalisation as if it has a separate […]

The Coolest Meta Model Question You’ve Never Seen Before

Well you probably won’t have seen it in the context of the Meta Model anyway. Apologies for the attention-grabbing headline by the way, but I was *very* impressed with this question and I think you will be too. (For non-NLP trained readers, the ‘Meta Model’ is a venerable guide to a set of language patterns […]

Practical NLP Podcast 37: The Meta Model part 3 – Deletions, And How To Use The Meta Model In Practice

This week’s episode concludes our exploration of the Meta Model with the group of patterns we can class as Deletions, and the associated questions to recover the missing information. We also include some vital tips for using the Meta Model in practice, so you don’t become a ‘Meta Model Monster’ and annoy everyone around you. […]

Practical NLP Podcast 36: The Meta Model part 2 – Generalisations

In this podcast we continue to explore the set of ‘marker’ language patterns and associated magic questions for uncovering missing information or helping us to realign our ‘mental maps’ with reality that in NLP is known as the ‘Meta Model’. This week we’re focusing on the patterns that can be broadly classed as ‘generalisations’. These […]

Practical NLP Podcast 35: The Meta Model part 1 – Distortions

In this week’s podcast we start exploring the set of magic questions called the ‘Meta Model’, which help you to uncover missing information, challenge generalisations, and straighten out distortions. These questions are going to be ultra-useful to you in all kinds of contexts therapy, coaching, business, and not least in your own personal development and aspects […]

Ask Better Questions: How Not To Use The NLP Meta Model

My last posting about open and closed questions prompted this response from a reader, which got me thinking about how questions from the NLP Meta Model, or any kind of “challenging” question, have to be used with care if you don’t want to wreak havoc on your working relationships (he’s kindly given me permission to […]

Universals and emotion

Just a musing prompted by watching UK Big Brother the other night. Some of the housemates get very emotional very frequently – and when they do, they use a lot of universal quantifiers: “This always happens to me”, “I’m never accepted” etc. And I got to thinking – when you’re flooded with emotion, those “always/no-one/never/every […]