How not to communicate – ‘nominalisations’ (with examples)

The term ‘nominalisation’ in NLP refers to words describing activities or processes (something we do) but that we talk about as if they are things. ‘Nominalising’ an activity distorts our thinking about it, because it obscures what the activity actually is, and allows us to talk about the nominalisation as if it has a separate […]

Emotional States And Persuasion: Practical NLP Podcast 65

This week on the Practical NLP Podcast, the most important thing you need to know about changing people’s minds – something that many of those ‘Influence with NLP’ and ‘Get anyone to do anything you want’ courses out there don’t tell you. It’s this: the state that your audience are in is going to have […]

Reframing and Preframing: Practical NLP Podcast 54

All meaning is context-dependent – so when we place events, things or qualities in a different frame, our emotional responses and probably behavioural responses can also change to something more helpful. This podcast explains the two types of ‘standard’ reframing in NLP (context and meaning reframes) and adds a third, the ‘figure-ground’ reframe. It also […]

What NLP Can Learn From Appreciative Inquiry

Recently I was interviewed by Robyn Stratton-Berkessel for her ‘Positivity Strategist’ podcast about the links between NLP and Appreciative Inquiry. Appreciative Inquiry, if you haven’t come across it before, is a method for bringing about change based on finding what’s working and building on it, rather than trying to analyse and fix problems. During the […]

Are NLP Rapport Techniques Manipulative?

Having discussed some practical applications of rapport techniques from NLP such as ‘pacing and leading’, we now come to the question of ‘Is it manipulative to use these methods?’ My belief is that ultimately it depends on your intention. If respect the other person and dovetail your desired outcome with theirs, you will get a win-win […]

Influencing Skills: Real-World Applications Of ‘Pacing And Leading’

The NLP idea of ‘pacing and leading’ is based on a genuine observed psychological phenomenon, and has some very useful applications in the real world. ‘Pacing’ in NLP means matching someone, falling into step with them, entering into their model of the world. You can pace someone’s ideas, beliefs and experiences as well as their […]

Metaphors: Practical NLP Podcast 44

This week’s podcast is a quick guide to how metaphors are used in NLP and how to create them. Featuring: How metaphor is fundamental to how we think and express ourselves Why an angry person is like a volcano and a relationship is like a journey How talking about hummingbirds could resolve a conflict with […]

‘Feel, Felt, Found’ – How It Works And How To Use It Better

The ‘Feel, Felt, Found’ technique is a classic objection handling technique that most sales people know about. But how well you use it could make the difference between it working as intended, to effectively neutralise the objection in the customer’s mind and move on from it, or alternatively coming across as patronising and increasing resistance […]

Practical NLP Podcast 43: Milton Model part 5

The final part in our epic series on the Milton Model covers some patterns with offputting names! But they are easier to understand and use than the names would suggest. So find out about: Examples of ‘Switching Referential Index’ you can actually use How to make the ‘Selectional Restriction Violation’ feel more user-friendly And of […]

Practical NLP Podcast 42: Milton Model 4 – Embedded Suggestions

Continuing with our exploration of the Milton Model and how to use it, this episode covers ’embedded suggestions’ – a way of embedding a word or phrase within a longer sentence that your listener’s unconscious mind will hear as a suggestion, without their conscious mind noticing. This is useful for changework and coaching, for encouraging […]