We Are Terrible At Thinking About The Future. This Is A Bad Thing, But Here’s How To Get Better

A recent article by Jane McGonigal of the Institute for the Future in Slate magazine points out that the further out in the future you try to imagine your own life, the more that future self feels like a stranger – someone you don’t know and consequently don’t care about. This effect harms both ourselves […]

Outframing: A Process For Loosening Limiting Beliefs

What is Outframing? Outframing means broadening or pulling back the frame to see how the meaning of something changes when seen in a different, wider context. In their vast endeavour The Encyclopedia of Systemic NLP and New Coding, Robert Dilts and Judith DeLozier outline a process called ‘Belief Outframing’, in which you examine a limiting belief […]

Two Ways To Install A Goal On Your Timeline: Practical NLP Podcast 74

This week’s podcast shows you two ways to install goals into your future, plus (if you’re using this for coaching or facilitating other individuals or groups) when you would use each method. Includes: How to discover your unconscious mind’s typical way of thinking about time How to make the image of your goal as compelling […]

What’s Missing From S.M.A.R.T. Goals: Practical NLP Podcast 73

This week’s podcast exposes the missing piece from the SMART goals model, and gives you a better model that takes account of your motivations and how you feel about the goal. Forget SMART, meet SYDER! Including: Why you don’t have to achieve every goal entirely by your own efforts Why you need to put a […]

Reframing and Preframing: Practical NLP Podcast 54

All meaning is context-dependent – so when we place events, things or qualities in a different frame, our emotional responses and probably behavioural responses can also change to something more helpful. This podcast explains the two types of ‘standard’ reframing in NLP (context and meaning reframes) and adds a third, the ‘figure-ground’ reframe. It also […]

The New Behaviour Generator: Practical NLP Podcast 52

In the last few episodes we’ve been talking about strategies. I’d like to round off this section by mentioning a powerful NLP technique for doing things better or installing new strategies – the New Behaviour Generator. As far as I know, this method was developed by Richard Bandler. It’s like positive mental rehearsal on steroids! […]

The Coolest Meta Model Question You’ve Never Seen Before

Well you probably won’t have seen it in the context of the Meta Model anyway. Apologies for the attention-grabbing headline by the way, but I was *very* impressed with this question and I think you will be too. (For non-NLP trained readers, the ‘Meta Model’ is a venerable guide to a set of language patterns […]

What does it mean to focus on ‘structure’ rather than ‘content’ in NLP?

This article was prompted by the above question from one of my readers, a trainer based in Iran. In NLP we are told that they best way to solve a problem, whether it’s a problem that someone would bring to therapy, or the kind of problem that occurs in a work team, is to focus […]

Practical NLP Podcast 38: The Milton Model part 1

The Milton Model part 1 If you want to influence people in any way, you need to know about the language patterns in NLP’s ‘Milton Model’. These are the ‘artfully vague’ patterns modelled by Richard Bandler and John Grinder from the great 20th century hypnotherapist and father of ‘indirect suggestion’, Milton Erickson. Most books covering […]

Practical NLP Podcast 37: The Meta Model part 3 – Deletions, And How To Use The Meta Model In Practice

This week’s episode concludes our exploration of the Meta Model with the group of patterns we can class as Deletions, and the associated questions to recover the missing information. We also include some vital tips for using the Meta Model in practice, so you don’t become a ‘Meta Model Monster’ and annoy everyone around you. […]